Confidence: It is a something we’ve all struggled with at one point or another. I can’t speak for everyone, but I would like to think that we know what we bring to the table whether it’s in a profession or a relationship. We know how fantastic we are. So why do we lack self-esteem?
Making a mistake is another cause for the lack in confidence. Anytime you make a mistake, you beat up on yourself harder than any other person. Scenarios run rapid in your head and you tell yourself, “See! I can’t do this!”. Even when the event is long past, we still replay it in our heads and point it out. We have to learn to let go of this obsessive behavior. We are humans and yes we make mistakes. There is nothing you can do now, but to learn from it and make changes.
Show of hands from anyone who has ever been around a person who has made you feel cheap or unworthy. These are toxic people and have tricked us into not liking ourselves. For example: I used to have a job where I did 90% of the data entry. Every once in a while, I would make a mistake. My boss at the time would focus on that and make me feel extremely small because of it. I was so bad at my job that he trained me to manage the office! If they are mean and make you love yourself less, then you need to forget them. They are the unworthy ones!
Another unhealthy habit that contributes to self-doubt is when we’re constantly comparing ourselves to others. It is so easy to point out others and wish you could be like them. However, you are at a different point in your life than they are in theirs and that is okay. We all have to travel on our own personal journeys. It is how you experience new things and learn. Remind yourself of these two things:
- We all have to start somewhere.
- I’ve come a long way to get to where I’m at now.
Start paying attention to your internal conversation. If you sense a negative thought, stop it before it takes control. Instead, redirect the thought into something positive or a compliment to yourself. Another pointer, would be to get out of your comfort zones and take risks. This will help develop your weaknesses into strengths and boost your self-esteem. Lastly, forget what others say. They are coming from a negative place and don’t wish you well. See their comments for what they are, brush it off, and move on.
You are unique, lovely, and smart! Be kind to yourself!