Are you that type of person who dreads social gatherings? Do you get extremely nervous when you have to talk to other people? Is it hard to make friends? If you answered yes to any of these, you may be a shy person. Shyness is a tendency to feel awkward and uncomfortable during social encounters. If you are letting your life, be controlled by this condition, know that you can correct it but it will be a challenge. Here’s how you can overcome shyness and be more comfortable in social settings.
Act the part
You know the phrase “fake it until you make it”. That’s exactly what you’re going to do. Act confident, stand tall, speak with authority. Over time, these behaviors you’re mimicking will become second nature.
Your nerves are probably knotted up and getting the best of you. Learn to take a deep breath and remind yourself that everything it okay.
You’re trying to rush through this. Speeding through only makes you more anxious. Slow down and take your time and especially when talking.
Stop the self-sabotage
You really need to stop putting yourself down and nitpicking. Instead, you should change your internal dialogue into positive comments.
People really don’t care
Seriously! No one is going to be overly concerned with what you said or how you present yourself. That means you need to stop caring about what you think other think of you.
Appreciate your uniqueness
All of these qualities that you may think are awkward and strange are what actually makes you interesting. Learn to appreciate those parts of yourself.
Look the part
If you want to exude a persona, you have to dress and groom yourself to fit into that role. Doing so will make the transition easier and give you a self-esteem boost.
Be aware of your emotions and habits. If there is anything preventing your progress, you have the chance to correct it when you are aware of it.
Put yourself out there
You have to step out of your comfort zone and face your shyness head on. Go to social events. Take on a leadership role. Make a new friend. The more you do this, the smoother these types of situations will go.
Have a role model
Is there someone who embodies the qualities you desire? Observe them, note how they act, and adopt some of their traits.
Get to the root issue
Why are you really shy? Why do you feel like you don’t belong? Why do you need others’ approval? Ask yourself the tough questions and honestly answer them. If you’re having trouble dealing with this, reach out to someone you trust or seek the help of a therapist.
As they say “practice makes perfect”. You can accomplish your goals and conquer your fears if you simply keep at it. Don’t give up.
You are absolutely wonderful and deserve to live freely. Throw away those feelings of inadequate and fearfulness because they are ruling you. Learn to love yourself unashamedly and take control of your life. We are all waiting for you to shine.